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Since I have become a mother, my BF has not forced me to work because he alone can money wise take care of everything. But in july i turned 25, and basically the light bulb turned on persay. There is no guarantee that BF will always be around whether it be death or breaking up... its a fact he wont always. i am a mom, so that means no matter what goes down i have tobe able to take care of the boys and myself regardless of anything that might come up. AND to top it all off i think i am having like some sort of realization, discontent w/ myself or something... because yet again i am 25, w/ 2 kids, and have not accomplished a damn thing for myself except for having 2 kids and a realtionship that lasted longer then any previous one i have had... but nothing that ALL my own... so i tell bf that i need a job, not only because the extra could help w/ our new and highly expensive house, but i need ins for my health, and what if he left me or i left him.... how could i take care of me! the answer is currently I CANT! i have zero w/o him... sayng that SUX MAJOR A$$ because till him i took care of me.
so anyways we are talking about it and listen to what he says to me:
1- you can never have a steady job, because if kids get sick, its me who has to get off work and eventually that could lead to me getting fired.
2- i CANT work days... because he isnt paying for someone else to take care of our kids that he DOESNT KNOW.
3- I wont make enough money because i havent worked in going on 4 years, plus i am a drop out!
and let me tell you girls... i just wanted to start crying because not only was all this more then likely TRU but to realize that after alll these years i have put into a realtionship/family and kno that @ the end of everyday i cant even depend on the guy who said he would DO anything & be there for me ... and the fact that he will not take any responsilbilities for his own kids past paying the bills.!
how? why? how? how do you working moms survive ?
so anyways we are talking about it and listen to what he says to me:
1- you can never have a steady job, because if kids get sick, its me who has to get off work and eventually that could lead to me getting fired.
2- i CANT work days... because he isnt paying for someone else to take care of our kids that he DOESNT KNOW.
3- I wont make enough money because i havent worked in going on 4 years, plus i am a drop out!
and let me tell you girls... i just wanted to start crying because not only was all this more then likely TRU but to realize that after alll these years i have put into a realtionship/family and kno that @ the end of everyday i cant even depend on the guy who said he would DO anything & be there for me ... and the fact that he will not take any responsilbilities for his own kids past paying the bills.!
how? why? how? how do you working moms survive ?