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I have posted in regards to my elbow surgery which took place April 25. It is painful but I take my tylenol 3's to help. One thing I haven't told you is the cause of my elbow problem which in turn resulted in me needing surgery. I was at the hospital this past thursday as instructed by my surgeon to get my drainage tube removed. As we were walking down the hallway together the surgeon told me that I had a lot of scar tissue in my elbow. I have to go back in 11 days to his office to have the dressing removed. I know the scar tissue that was in my elbow is the result of injuries to the area and I can thank my ex boyfriend for doing this to me. Yes, I was involved in a very abusive relationship but I am not with him anymore nor never plan on going back to him. He was constantly physically abusing me and I was always being knocked down, banging my arm, bruising, strains, sprains. He also would twist, hit, squeeze this arm and dislocated my shoulder once. Before all of this I never had any injuries to the elbow so I know he is the cause. All of my symptoms of nerve compression started after the abuse.
When the surgeon told me this on Thursday that I had a lot of scar tissue my stomach just dropped. I sort of sensed all along the cause. I have moved on, getting better mentally but knowing that I needed surgery to correct something he did to me really upsets me. I guess I haven't fully dealt with what happened.
I have to say that this surgeon is an angel. He is aware of what happened to me and been fully supportive. He was the first person I told, sensed something was wrong with me and asked me in a round about way how are you feeling. Sometimes you hear of these surgeons not having 'people skills' and view you as someone to fix and that is it. I am not saying all of them are like this, good and bad in every profession. This doctor treats you like a person and in fact I feel as though he saved me life. Not medically but just encouraged and supported me throughout this. I went to this doctor for injuries and never once did he say I can't treat you, go to the hospital, walk in clinic etc. That would have been his right since he is a plastic surgeon and not a family doctor, ER doctor etc. There were times when I just walked in and he took me. I felt bad at times going in on short notice but luckily he wasn't very busy. This doctor will be retiring in the next few months. I did have one bad experience at the emergency ward. I had a head injury, bruises, luckily not severe. The ER doctor came into the room and said to me "So I guess you enjoy being slapped around." I walked out of there. Another time I had a broken finger, another doctor at the walk in clinic basically blamed/judged me. After that I didn't trust doctors and was very leery. Luckily the surgeon has never blamed or pressured me.
What is sad is my parents are fully aware of everything that has happened and I have zero support from them. They basically say "Well you are not dead." I am glad I am not dead, but I still had horrible things done to me.No matter how I try to explain it to them, I get the same response. It's not that they don't want to face what was done to me they just don't seem to care one bit. I don't bother to talk to them about it because it just gets me more upset.
When the surgeon told me this on Thursday that I had a lot of scar tissue my stomach just dropped. I sort of sensed all along the cause. I have moved on, getting better mentally but knowing that I needed surgery to correct something he did to me really upsets me. I guess I haven't fully dealt with what happened.
I have to say that this surgeon is an angel. He is aware of what happened to me and been fully supportive. He was the first person I told, sensed something was wrong with me and asked me in a round about way how are you feeling. Sometimes you hear of these surgeons not having 'people skills' and view you as someone to fix and that is it. I am not saying all of them are like this, good and bad in every profession. This doctor treats you like a person and in fact I feel as though he saved me life. Not medically but just encouraged and supported me throughout this. I went to this doctor for injuries and never once did he say I can't treat you, go to the hospital, walk in clinic etc. That would have been his right since he is a plastic surgeon and not a family doctor, ER doctor etc. There were times when I just walked in and he took me. I felt bad at times going in on short notice but luckily he wasn't very busy. This doctor will be retiring in the next few months. I did have one bad experience at the emergency ward. I had a head injury, bruises, luckily not severe. The ER doctor came into the room and said to me "So I guess you enjoy being slapped around." I walked out of there. Another time I had a broken finger, another doctor at the walk in clinic basically blamed/judged me. After that I didn't trust doctors and was very leery. Luckily the surgeon has never blamed or pressured me.
What is sad is my parents are fully aware of everything that has happened and I have zero support from them. They basically say "Well you are not dead." I am glad I am not dead, but I still had horrible things done to me.No matter how I try to explain it to them, I get the same response. It's not that they don't want to face what was done to me they just don't seem to care one bit. I don't bother to talk to them about it because it just gets me more upset.