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I met this awesome guy in 2002 and we became friends but lost touch after high school until we found one another on facebook. We started dating and then we moved in together. We've been dating for a year and a half now and for the most part we are happy. We have lived together for probably a year now as well.
Probably 6 months ago he started going to lunch with a girl at his work. He started telling me what they talked about at lunch and he told me that all she talks about is her sex life in great detail and that she asks him about his. She knew he was dating someone and still talked about it during their lunch breaks. This happened 4-5 times and he told me about it each time. I remained silent even though it bothered me.
She quits the company, and moves 2-3 hours away. She sends him random text messages and he hides them from me. A month goes by and she contacts him to see if he wants to go to lunch with her since she is in town. He agrees and does not tell me. I find out he is hiding the lunch from me, because he slipped and mentioned it to his friend on the phone while I was in the same room. We argue and I tell him that I am uncomfortable with her, and that most girls will not sit there talking about sex and asking how your sex life is. He cancels lunch with her but still texts her for the next few months. The only reason I know this is because he gets a text and hides the screen from me ONLY when it is her.
Last weekend I find out he has a lunch with a friend set up for Saturday. He told his best friend that he couldn't come over until a certain time because he had lunch plans with a friend. The only time he doesn't tell me stuff is when he is trying to hide it. I get kind of distant and he asks me what is wrong and I ask him who he is going to lunch with. He says that he didn't want to tell me because he knew I would get upset and that she is just a friend. I get upset and tell him that he shouldn't hide things from me, because that makes me think there is something to hide. I also mentioned that he knew I was uncomfortable with her and yet he still made plans with her. And it isn't very respectful to deliberately ignore your girlfriend's feelings. We make up and I start to not trust him as much since now I have no clue if he is "hiding" things from me so I don't get upset.
He got on facebook to show me some pictures last night that his sister posted from her trip to Vietnam. As SOON as he logs in the girl messages him and he hides it quickly.
I have no clue what to do. I've told him I'm not comfortable with her because of how she acts. I don't mind him hanging out with girls, but it bothers me when all they talk about is sex. I'm just not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.
I met this awesome guy in 2002 and we became friends but lost touch after high school until we found one another on facebook. We started dating and then we moved in together. We've been dating for a year and a half now and for the most part we are happy. We have lived together for probably a year now as well.
Probably 6 months ago he started going to lunch with a girl at his work. He started telling me what they talked about at lunch and he told me that all she talks about is her sex life in great detail and that she asks him about his. She knew he was dating someone and still talked about it during their lunch breaks. This happened 4-5 times and he told me about it each time. I remained silent even though it bothered me.
She quits the company, and moves 2-3 hours away. She sends him random text messages and he hides them from me. A month goes by and she contacts him to see if he wants to go to lunch with her since she is in town. He agrees and does not tell me. I find out he is hiding the lunch from me, because he slipped and mentioned it to his friend on the phone while I was in the same room. We argue and I tell him that I am uncomfortable with her, and that most girls will not sit there talking about sex and asking how your sex life is. He cancels lunch with her but still texts her for the next few months. The only reason I know this is because he gets a text and hides the screen from me ONLY when it is her.
Last weekend I find out he has a lunch with a friend set up for Saturday. He told his best friend that he couldn't come over until a certain time because he had lunch plans with a friend. The only time he doesn't tell me stuff is when he is trying to hide it. I get kind of distant and he asks me what is wrong and I ask him who he is going to lunch with. He says that he didn't want to tell me because he knew I would get upset and that she is just a friend. I get upset and tell him that he shouldn't hide things from me, because that makes me think there is something to hide. I also mentioned that he knew I was uncomfortable with her and yet he still made plans with her. And it isn't very respectful to deliberately ignore your girlfriend's feelings. We make up and I start to not trust him as much since now I have no clue if he is "hiding" things from me so I don't get upset.
He got on facebook to show me some pictures last night that his sister posted from her trip to Vietnam. As SOON as he logs in the girl messages him and he hides it quickly.
I have no clue what to do. I've told him I'm not comfortable with her because of how she acts. I don't mind him hanging out with girls, but it bothers me when all they talk about is sex. I'm just not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.