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Am I reading correctly when you say "He's being so selfish that he has you convinced that its your fault to want to even discuss the fact that he only sees you weekly and can't open up about it." ...I actually don't get that at all from her post that HE is making HER feel that she can't come talk to him about what is concerning her. I think this is a kinda man I would want to keep actually, not give up so easily. He has a job and is studying. This equals to the much higher chance of having a more comfortable life later on.
Originally Posted by MissFortune /img/forum/go_quote.gif
If you're afraid to have a serious conversation with someone you've talked about having a child with because you don't want to "hurt his feelings".... well, isn't that kind of your answer right there?? Communication in a relationship is basically everything. If you can't even talk to him about the issue of spending more time together how could you expect to relationship to head in the right direction? His feelings getting hurt is the last thing that should be in your mind. You should be thinking about how to communicate yourself in the right way, yes, but like I said, if having a conversation with your boyfriend that you've obviously discussed much bigger things with already.. maybe you need to be thinking about moving on and not hurting him, but how this is hurting YOU. He's being so selfish that he has you convinced that its your fault to want to even discuss the fact that he only sees you weekly and can't open up about it. Hope things work out but maybe better things are waiting for you... if it was my boyfriend it would either be resolved or ended. No in between no games no bullshit. Sounds to me he is clearly dancing around the subject and does not WANT to talk about it. He can talk about something as huge as having a child with you, but NOT his weekly schedule?? Something doesn't add up here... Good luck.