Hi Leony, big (((HUGS))) to you. I am glad things seem to be working out now.It sounds like you have a big heart and wear it on your sleeve, and that you're good giving kind nature has been taken advantage of. You must have been under some pressure and stress having to cope with all that for 3 years! Stress in not good for you so i am so glad you have been talking and asserting yourself. However be wary, your SIL sounds rather manipulative and so you may have to be very firm with her and not let her slip back into her old ways a week after the recent discusion. Keep talking to your hubby and make sure he backs you up.You are in your own home and you have rights. Your heart is good, so don't let anyone make you feel guilty. 3 years is a long time and could easily turn into another 3 if SIL gets her own way. It's time for her to start paying her own way and for you to claim your rights to your home.Good Luck Leonyx