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The more you spend on polishes now, the less you'll be able to spend on looking perfect on your big day! Take all the money that you're about to spend on those polishes and put it aside into a "beauty" fund for your wedding day - for hair, makeup, etc.
Also, as far as the list for invites goes, some men are great at this, some are... well, useless. When my hubby and I started wedding planning, I called a meeting with HIS female relatives (mom, grandma, aunt, etc) and asked THEM to provide me with addresses, asked about any family wedding traditions from their side that they wanted incorporated (I held veto power on these, of course, lol. Thankfully it wasn't anything more than wanting two of the little kids in the family as ringbearer/flowergirl) and let them feel like they were a part of everything, which I've heard over and over that they really appreciated.
So get his sister or his mom's contact info, call them directly, and CALMLY ask for their help. In fact, if the mom is at all organized, she probably has a whole list of addresses from sending Christmas cards by her side! Let her know how many people you're inviting from your side, and what number you'd like as a total amount, so she can help you prioritize - She can also give you an idea of who you invite what will probably not be able to make it due to travel or work conflicts, but would 1) be insulted to not get an invite or B) will probably sent a gift anyway. It's a win-win - you'll have the info you need, his family will feel included, and your fiance will probably feel happier that he doesn't have to make the decision of whether his second cousin's step-brother needs an invite.
Best of luck! We are here for you!
ETA - Also, I know you just got some fabulous polishes from your Nail Santa! Go give yourself a mani with one of your pretty new polishes!!!
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Unfotunately, buying polishes won't solve your communication problem and while they might make you feel better for a few minutes the current problem will still be there waiting to be resolved. The only way to remove the stress is to get the information you need. Can you call the sister? I sympathize with you and I'm sorry this is causing stress.
My husband was useless regarding wedding planning - I went straight to the source - his mother! Honestly though, I was rather ambivalent during the whole wedding planning. At the time I was finishing my master's degree, working full time, and heavily involved in a couple of community organizations and I think my sister did more of my wedding planning than I did.
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I'd say, Put together a nice big order for yourself. Then go to your fiancée and tell him that he's is going to buy that for you if he doesn't get cracking right away. Maybe that will motivate him, and if it doesn't you get a nice present.
I'd probably call his sister and go over the invites together, and maybe your fiancée doesn't know where to start. Anyway, best of luck!
Thanks ladies!! I probably won't buy anything but it just gets worse. I asked his mom, his mom told me to ask his sister, and his sister isn't answering or sending the list that she promised to send. My matron of honor (my best friend) sent emails saying she would orgaize the shower and bachlorette party and isn't getting any more from them than I am. His one sister told her flat out isn't helping with or going to the bachlorette party, and that was after BOTH of his sisters suggested we go see Blue Man Group, so my friend got prices and dates and everything, and she got back no response from one, and the snippy response from the other one.
I am just to the point to tell my friend to plan for my friends and family and if his family wants to do anything or be included, they will just have to do it on their own or not at all, I just don't care anymore. He's been married before, I haven't, so I'm not sure if they feel like they've done all this once before and don't feel the need to do it again or what. And every time I bring it up to my fiancee, he just says "relax, it will get done." Mine will, I'm not so sure about his anymore.