This may sound counter productive, but it really does work. I always feel great when I'm giving, there is a natural high in making another person happy. So I set up a makeshift massage table complete with candles for ambiance, something nice to drink, and put on an interesting audio book in the background as I give my hard working husband a massage. All the stress from his day just melts out of his muscles and it makes me feel happy because I'm helping him to feel better. Then we'll switch and he gives me one. When we're both really relaxed and happy, we shower off the massage oil and have the best sleep that night, muscles loosened and feeling closer than ever. It bonds us, it doesn't cost us anything really and we both benefit. It's a wonderful way to wind down.