Originally Posted by Lafawnduh Well, I think that I am unattractive to him because he told me that he doesn't think I'm pretty. I found out that he thinks I'm mediocre looking, but not pretty. For a while he always would tell me he thought I was beautiful and made me feel good about myself. I later found out he never really meant it, only said it to make me feel better about myself. I know there's some physical attraction to me on his part or else he wouldn't be with me, but I still feel unattractive when he checks out girls when I'm there with him... I just wish he'd look at me the way he looks at them.
Before he told me all that, he also cheated on me for a girl he considered to be more physically attractive. He said it was an "ego boost" that she was interested in him. (Other than the fact she had bigger boobs and clearer skin, I don't think she's much prettier than me.. but whatever.)
That's why I think the way I do... it's difficult not to let that stuff affect me in some way.
Lafawnduh--Sorry to butt in,but OMG,I just read your post,and it pierces my heart! You deserve to be with someone who not only sees and appreciates your beauty completely, but also respects you and cares about not hurting your feelings--and it sounds like this guy you are with does none of these things! No one should ever make you feel you are mediocre looking,and especially not in the eyes of your lover!He is supposed to reassure you, sothe you, lift you up--not break you apart, tear you down, hurt you so deeply. And cheating on you openly like that(not that secretly is better.)I don't know you,of course, but I know you deserve your freedom from this cruel sounding man, and the chance to start your life again, and to find someone new, who will love you for every ounce of who you are. Please, try and break from him if you can--no one deserves to hurt in this way...And certainly not a sweet fellow MUTer... YOU deserve to be loved.