Originally Posted by
Carolyn /img/forum/go_quote.gif You might not like this post but so be warned:If the two of you have not had intercource, he may be really really horny.
Maybe your lying beside him is driving him crazy.
Until you are prepared to have a physical relationship with him that includes intercource, he may prefer that the two of you not sleep together at all.
You need to have a serious talk with him - encourage him to be completely honest with you so you can understand why he is behaving the way he is.
Good luck honey
I doubt it..he gets other forms of sex all the time..every day..and i would totally have sex with him if he wanted to, we just havent gotten to that point yet. id do him in a second..haha
Originally Posted by
mrom /img/forum/go_quote.gif I actually just went through premarital counseling last night with my fiance and pastor, and we went over a similar situation.I am very physically affectionate(hugs, kisses, i love you's, and nighttime cuddling), but jamie is not. We were told that there are different"love languages". i speak the physical language, while jamie speaks the service one. he shows his love by doing things for me(putting gas in my car, paying bills, helping around the house, etc...). the problem is, when you speak two different languages, it is hard to understand the way the other expresses love. We have decided to try and speak each other's languages more. I will do more "services" for him, while he tries to be more physical. last night, I finally got cuddled! You really need to communicate with your bf and let him know how much you need this time with him. I wouldn't go one more night feeling the way you do. It's not fair for you to cry yourself to sleep. if you can't come to a compromise that will satisfy you both, there may be bigger problems that you are unaware of. good luck to you and happy spooning! i think we speak different languages, he is the same as your bf and im the same as you. thanks for your post!
aquilah thanks for all yours too..very helpful.
i really, really appreciate everyone being so nice and helpful, i've read and respect all your posts.
btw i dont snore haha..
Originally Posted by
Aquilah /img/forum/go_quote.gif So very true! I tend to trust his opinion with things like this because I've seen him call it and watch it happen. Lord knows how someone who sits in front of a TV and PS3 when he's not at work can be so intuitive LOL! Aquilah your hubby is a smarty. Honestly even though you all are giving me great scenarios, I truly think that it is just that..he isnt used to it.
And I have to get used to that myself!
Originally Posted by
empericalbeauty /img/forum/go_quote.gif Call him out. Randomly too. Be in the middle of a conversation and just switch it up. thats what I do to Chris. He doesnt expect it so he blurts out the reason behind him being strange. Or just talk to him about it. I agree with whoever said that there is an underlying reason behind it. No one will say because you hog the blanket they wont sleep with you anymore. Maybe you fart in your sleep (Lol..sorry, just kidding) and he doesn't know how to deal with it. But seriously. I would advise you to talk to him about it and let him know it hurts your feelings. I am a blanket Hog and shit like that has never gone down. But people are different.
Oh oh..Lol..Just to lighten the mood let me tell you a story. So I walk out of the shower (in Chris's place) and I hear him talking to his friends. about like 3 or 5 of them. He hears me coming and gets a smirk on his face. He is about to do it. He announces to them "Oh..Grace farts in her sleep". I dont! I really dont! but because I said something about him teasingly to them..He got me back.
Hope that made you smile or laugh.
Lol, thank you very much..you all have been so helpful..